Somatic Therapy for Relationships
Change is inevitable.
The question is: are you willing to change together?
Get the tools to learn how.
I support relationships with building resilience for life’s ups, downs, and changes.
In this work, we’re often answering the question: how do we feel connected even when things are hard?
Answering this question often looks like connecting to what’s already feeling good, getting to the root of what’s hurting, finding the longing underneath the fear, shut down, or resentment, and practicing the tools to feel connected to your individual selves and your relationship at the same time.
This is brave work that requires willingness from both partners to show up and practice. This work is also simple—not asking you to perform perfection, only asking you to slow down and bring what’s present into relationship.
Starting relationship therapy can bring up a lot, and I want you to know that it is not just a practice of turning towards what is hard week after week, but also a practice of tending to what feels good.
This is a space to garden your love together—to pull the weeds and to smell the flowers.
Hi, I’m Shallyn!
I work with romantic relationships, friendships, and other partnerships that are seeking support with:
how to navigate traumas and triggers in connection
how to work with blame and shame when they inevitably show up in conflict
communicating, loving, and understanding across differences (i.e. different cultures, different neurotypes, different sexual identities, different races, different experiences of gender, different class experiences, different experiences with illness and disability, etc.)
embarking on a mutual process of understanding how your pasts are informing your present
finding what works for your relationship beyond “shoulds,” norms, and expectations
how to understand and work with attachment patterns in relationship
how to practice rupture and repair (and build trust that when there’s rupture, repair is on its way)
how to slow down your conflicts and really hear one another
mapping how your nervous systems respond to one another
knowing when and how to co-regulate and when and how to self-soothe
recovering intimacy
nurturing trust and safety as a consistent practice
holding emerging or shifting sexuality and/or gender identity in relationship
moving between relationship models (i.e. monogamy, polyamory, openness, etc.)
processing relationship transitions & change
deciding whether or not to stay in relationship
holding (potentially or seemingly competing) needs, wants, & boundaries